So you are totally crushing on that new guy in the office. Or maybe that guy you saw the other night at the bar? Or even at the grocery store? You may even have started to have a friendly, innocent relationship, but you want to take it to the next level. You want to make him want you! But you have no clue as to how to get him to notice you or better yet, how to make him want you!


When you wonder how to make him want you, keep in mind the following. The aim is to get him to really notice you, not just on a physical level (although, deep down we want that as well, even though we aren’t willing to admit it). You want to have a relationship with this man, not a casual thing. If you are looking for simple ways how to make him want you, have no fear. Below are some of the most tried and true ways to make him want you for the long run and not just a one-night stand!

Have a Life of Your Own

Do you know how to get a guy to like you? Let him know that he is not the center of your universe. If you are always sitting around waiting him for to call and jump every time he calls, he’s going to think you’re desperate. Men like a woman who are independent and have a life apart from his. He certainly will have a life of his own as well. Spend time with your family and friends. Go out by yourself. Keep yourself busy. Show him you are both independent and confident. If you want to make him want you, you need to show him that you are self-assured.

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Build up His Ego

Compliment him often. Let him know you think he’s smart, funny and attractive. Tell him how you feel, but don’t lay it on too thick so that it sounds fake! Be honest and sincere. Also flirt with him a lot. Make eye contact. Brush your hand lightly against his arm. Touch his hand. Show him you are confidant in the way you feel about yourself... and him. Make him feel like a man.

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Keep up Your Appearance

Dress to impress. Wear that sexy black dress or cute little bathing suit. Make sure your hair and makeup are always on point. Wear those sexy little heels. Treat yourself to some fun new clothes and experiment with new hairstyles and makeup. While appearances aren’t everything, a man wants his woman to look good. Be sexy, but leave a little room for mystery.



Don’t Be Afraid to Let Your Hair Down

On the same token, don’t be afraid to cut loose every once in awhile. If he wants to go hiking or camping, dress for the part. You certainly don’t want to wear six-inch heels and a mini-skirt while hiking through the woods. Dress appropriately for the moment and don’t be afraid to go natural. Show him that you can be sassy and sexy, but also down to earth as well. Show him that you can be just as much fun at a sporting event as you can at a night out on the town.

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Make a Genuine Effort to Share His Interests

So he’s a huge sports fan and you’re not really into football? You don’t have to become a sports addict, but don’t act bored and roll your eyes when he’s passionately discussing last night’s game. Ask him questions if you are confused and make an effort to share in his hobbies. You don’t have to be a carbon copy of your man, differences are what keep the relationship alive, but it can’t hurt to show some sincere interest in his hobbies. You never know what you might learn. And if you show him you are making the effort, he may return the favor as well. Showing that you are an open-minded person is a great way to make him want you more.

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Don’t Dumb It Down

Sadly, the media gives us the impression that men like women who are a bit, shall we say “airheaded.” However, this is not the case. Men love a woman with a brain. They don’t want you to just sit there and nod at everything they say with a blank expression on your face. If you’re intelligent, then show it. Engage him in a heated debate about politics or current events. Show him there is more to you than just good looks! A little knowledge goes a long way.


Don’t Come Across as High Maintenance

No man wants a woman who is self-absorbed and expects to be waited on hand and foot. Even if you really are high maintenance, don’t let him see that side of you. Men like women who are laidback and easygoing. Do not appear dramatic, rigid and high-maintenance or he will be running in the opposite direction.

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Spoil Him a Little

Men love attention... and gifts! Bake him brownies or cupcakes. Make him homemade chocolates. Write him a poem or song. Make a homemade card or leave him little notes. Buy him small gifts. Give him a backrub. Show him how much you appreciate him by leaving him little tokens of your love.

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Don’t Be Too Clingy

While you do want to shower him with attention, there is such a thing as over-kill. Men don’t like women that hang all over them, especially in public. Give him his space. Don’t call or text him all the time. Let him text your first. Make him miss you. Show him you have a life apart from him, as mentioned earlier. A little confidence goes a long way. Let him have his free time, and you have yours as well. Show him that you can exist without him.

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Use these tips on how to make him want you and he will be putty in your hands. Remember to stay confident and always be real! Let him see the real you from the start. Act smart, sexy and confident and he will be yours in no time!