It happens to most of you: people always ask, “Hey, why the long face?” or, “Hey, what’s wrong?” You then roll your eyes before explaining your resting bitch face for the 70th time that day. Sometimes it pretty much gets on your nerves because you are feeling anything but unfriendly, but it does come in handy when you are too pissed to talk to people. At the end of the day, whether you like it or not – your face is here to stay. Here are some quotes that women can sometimes relate to themselves.
1. “Did You Have A Bad Day?”
Or, I have some headache remedies in my purse, do you need any? You could be just walking down the street on the way to work or home when you meet a friend and they ask this. You can be just displaying your default face but they perceive it as, ‘I’ve just lost my job and my partner all in one day.’ Come on, who even asks this kind of question in the early morning? Sometimes you really do spend the day like a regular person.
However, it is hard to make them understand.
2. “Why Do You Hate The World?”
Instead of hating the world, you simply wonder how to be awesome in all spheres of your life, that is, your mind is occupied, but not angry. Well, it may be true that the world is quite a messed up place, but that is the least of your concerns! You are more concerned about catching the bus on time to school/work and getting a cup of coffee from Starbucks on the way. Furthermore, you are too busy enjoying your life to care so much. Partying, dating, getting a new dress, or the break up gossips are the things you care about, instead of hating the world.
3. “You Never Seem Happy”
On the contrary, you do have your fair share of happy moments; the only problem is that they do not represent accurately on your faces. You are just like any other regular person; you do like flowers and children, and do get excited when receiving your paychecks. The thing that makes you different is that you do not expose your happiness like everyone else, otherwise people will ask reasons behind your happiness and you do not like to answer them.
4. “Are You OK?”
Yes you are. In fact, you could not be feeling much better. You’re often just thinking of a math problem or a deep philosophical question while staring into space, but pity people fail tosee that and they think that you’re getting all messed up inside. It is very sweet that people are very concerned about your well-being, but their constant asking of the same question tires you out… and could potentially make you not OK.
5. “Smile More!”
In this fake world, everyone is supposed to have a smiling face and you try your best to apply this philosophy on yourself too. However, your face makes it an exception for you. It gets tiring when numerous people tell you the same thing and you try your best to play along with them – only to end up with a muscle cramp on your cheek at the end of the day.
6. “Are You Judging Me?”
People thinking that if you are just staring into space and not focusing on anything, you’re thinking of how ugly other people are and how best to prank them… Sadly, as much as people think that there is a lot to read in your faces, there is actually nothing to read. You are just resting, with your bitch face, not judging another person. Instead, you might be planning your dinner or a weekend trip with your loved one.
7. “Erm… Are You… Being Serious? Or Joking? Or Sarcastic?”
It gets annoying when you are trying to convey a certain message, but the audience gets the wrong message just by misinterpreting your face. When you are making an important announcement at a meeting, people just treat you as if you are clowns, and when you are making a cold joke with your friends, they treat you as if you were at a parade. You are funny, and you always make your friends laugh uncontrollably, but once they are done laughing they always ask you if you were joking – and instantly the mood dies.
8. “You Look Fierce”
This is something that someone who does not know you well would say. It always kills you a little on the inside whenever you get a comment like this. You are the most gentle and friendliest creature you can ever find out there! Just because your face tells a story that only the toughest of people have been through, does not mean that you have been through countless wars. Beneath your resting face is usually a kind heart that would not hurt a fly.
9. “You Could Be More Polite”
Just because you do not smile, does not mean that you are rude. Most of the times you try to be energetic and smile for others, but people do not understand how exhausting it is for you to pretend being someone you are not. You prefer being natural, letting your cheek muscles relax the whole day. However, for them politeness comes merely from farcical expressions and you are not good at it.
10. “You’re So Bossy”
People perceive that you are a snob when you tell them what to do. You are just giving your simple instructions; you do not mean to command them in any way! You always have to say every single word carefully so that your words do not offend anyone, but this makes it worse because people treat you even less seriously, and it is not your mistake. People have to understand your situation too.
11. “You’re Feeling Down? … Oh.”
People thinking that it is nothing new when you feel angry, sad or disappointed since these emotions always display on your face. That is not fair for you; you deserve your fair share of love and care too! It always happens that when you are not feeling down people get bothered by your resting face and ask all sorts of questions, but when you are really feeling down people think that you are just in another normal state.
More often people think that you are judging them – when in fact they are the ones judging you! So what if you were born with this resting bitch face? Your face was given to you by your parents and there is nothing that you can do even if you yourself dislike it, just get used to the situations you encounter.
FAQ: Resting Bitch Face
What causes RBF?
Natural facial features such as heavy brows, deep set or squinting eyes, naturally intense gaze, turned down lips can cause RBF. We lose tone in muscles as time passes; drooping facial features create a tired or displeased look and our voice gets weaker.
In some cases, RBF can be a result of trauma and/or psychiatric disorders as depression or SES impairments.
How can I improve my facial expression?
Take a picture of your resting face or look in the mirror and see what adjustments can you make. Practice your expressions at home, develop control over the face muscles. Lifting the corners of your mouth makes you seem happier. Lifting your eyebrows a little helps to get rid of a tired face expression, fully open yet relaxed eyes look most inviting. Relax your jaw and your tongue inside your mouth to soften your facial features. Lastly, you can tone your face muscles by doing head, throat exercises like practicing OM chanting, pranayama yoga, and playing wind or rhythmic instruments.