I’ve spent most of my adult life wondering if and when a man is going to show me love. How can you tell it really is true love unless you have some sort of obvious sign, right? Men often say that women are mysterious. Well, in my opinion the opposite is true, as men often have a hard time expressing their feelings.


In reality, few men are looking for 'love quotes for him' to express their feelings. But we want them to be able to express their true love to us without us having to prompt them at all. I mean it’s not like we can walk right up to them and say “Hey, babe, show me love,” right?

And as for women, it's our favorite pastime to read the articles like 'how to make him want you,' or 'how to draw his attention.' While men may be a bit complex, they are not really that difficult to read. It just takes some training and you need to be able to pick up on subtle signs. In the following article, I will give you some of the secrets to how I was finally able to figure out that a guy was actually trying to show me love.

1. He introduces you to his family and friends

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If a guy is starting to get serious, he will mention meeting his family and friends. He will set up that first important big meeting with his immediate family and will start to include you in family functions and events. He will include you on family outgoings and invite you over for family dinners and holidays.

If he really likes you, he will also introduce you to his closest friends. He will start having group dates with his friends or ask you to meet him at the bar with the guys after work for a drink. Or he may even ask you to tag along to a sporting event with his male friends. If he starts to include you in his inner circle, you can guarantee that it’s definitely true love.


2. He asks you for advice

If you man suddenly starts asking your opinion on where to eat or what type of cologne he should purchase, he obviously values your opinion. If he asks you to help him shop for a gift for a friend or family member, it means that both you, and your opinion matter to him.

He may ask you to help him run errands or with housework or he may even ask you to show him how to cook a certain recipe. Once he starts asking for your opinion and advice, it means he is really interested in you and that you are an important part of his life.

3. He spends a lot of time with you

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If he wants to pursue a serious relationship with you, he will make you a priority. He will include you in his plans and make sure that he is spending a lot of time with you. He will start to put you equal, if not first, with his family and friends. He will make you a priority and set aside special time for just the two of you.


4. He texts or calls you often

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As a rule, guys are not big on texting or talking on the phone. They just aren’t very chatty in general. If he starts texting you or calling you more frequently, it’s a sure sign that he is into you. If he starts sending you “Good morning” or “Goodnight” texts, or just starts texting you randomly throughout the day, it means he is thinking about you.

5. He looks at you in a certain way

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You can tell he likes you by looking in his eyes. If his eyes light up when you walk in the room, or you catch him staring at you, then he is totally into you. If you look into his eyes and he doesn’t look away and stares back intently, he has definite feelings for you. The old saying is true “The eyes are the window” to the soul, so pay attention to his eyes as well as his facial expressions when you are together. If he smiles and laughs when you are together, that is also a good sign that it’s true love.


6. He shows genuine interest in your life

If a guy is into you, he will express an interest in your daily life. He will ask you about your day, your interests and hobbies and your career. And he will actually listen when you talk, instead of just nodding along and thinking about last night’s ballgame. If he is really into you, he will even start to show interest in your hobbies. If he suddenly wants to go shopping with you or joins your yoga class, it means he wants to spend more time with you and get to know you better. (Side note: It bodes well for you if you show some interest in his hobbies as well, and ask him questions and listen when he talks).

7. He is willing to make compromises

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If a man is genuinely interested in you he will start to make compromises. He will ask you what you want to do and be willing to give a little. He will let you choose where and what to eat and will let you pick a movie. Bonus points if he gives you the remote or lets you choose the music in the car. If he is willing to do a little “give and take” then he is starting to seriously consider a relationship with you as everything is not about “us” rather than just him.

8. He makes plans for the future with you

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On the same token, if he is starting to make future plans with you, for example “Next summer” or “in two years…” it means he is starting to consider you as part of his future. A guy who is just in it for a casual fling will not want to make future plans. Men generally do not plan for the future so if he starts talking about future events and trips, you can gauteen that he really likes you!


9. He isn’t afraid to show affection in public

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Men overall do not like PDA (Public Displays of Affection) but if his feeling for you are becoming stronger, he will be more willing to make little gestures of affection in public. He may start to hold your hand or put his arm around you. As a rule, men do not like it when you hang all over them in public, but if you notice that he is starting to be a bit more affectionate with you while you are out in the public eye, then it means he is getting serious.

FAQ: Show Me Love

How do you know if a guy likes you secretly?

If a guy likes you secretly, you will certainly feel it. So if you have any doubts, he most likely doesn’t feel any affection towards you. The guy who likes you will always smile when you are around. He’ll try to be around and will use an opportunity to talk to you. He will surely offer to help you and highlight the similarities between you two.

How do guys show affection?

If a guy’s love language is touch, he’ll try to hug you, hold your hand. There are other love languages like words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts. According to his type, he will show his affection in some of these ways. Typically, the guy who likes you will try to see you often, he’ll remember little details about you and will surprise you with his care. He will text you often meaning that he always thinks of you.

How does a man feel when he is in love?

Men in love have a tendency to be overjoyed, which is attributable to changes in the brain. When a man falls in love, high quantities of dopamine (a neurotransmitter linked to the brain’s reward area) are released, causing him to experience a natural high and euphoria.