Have you tried kinky sex already? Well, we recommend that you do. When you are in a long term relationship, chances are you two have tried a lot. And spicing things up might be something your partner desires secretly.
There is a study that reveals an interesting fact: about 27% of Americans want to try new things in sex. And not all of them dare to ask their partner for it.
Also, 40% of Americans say that they are kinky. And one third of all Americans admit having a particular fetish or kink. So, it’s much more common than we think.
Let’s give you some ideas on how to spice things up between your sheets or, you know, elsewhere.
The Punishment-Reward System
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Introduce the punishment-reward system into your sex, and it will instantly become kinkier. But remember one important thing: this system is supposed to be fun. Your sex will become more exciting. Just don’t try to over-control your partner.
Here are some ideas of rewards: oral sex, hand job, massaging his balls or your clitoris. As for the punishments, it could be spanking, face slapping, grabbing the balls, tickling, or pinching.
Crazy Kinky Oral Sex
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Oral sex does not seem like something kinky. But it can be. For example, when your partner is eating you, use your hands to guide him. Place your hands on his head and then pull his hair a bit in the necessary direction. Or, when he does something especially satisfying, begin massaging his scalp. It’s a kind of cunnilingus feedback.
Think About The Finish Before You Start
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You can always give your partner a straightforward and routine job. But finish that right, and it will turn into something super hot.
For example, let him finish into the hand, then just lick it off or put into the mouth. Or ask him to cum in your mouth, then swallow it, looking into his eyes. It could also be your breasts, face, ass, neck – anything he is obsessed about.
Sex In The Water
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Sex in the water is something that we all saw in the movies and read in hot sex stories. But if you really wish to try it, use a waterproof lubricant. It’s necessary because your natural lubricant will be washed away in the water. And if you don’t use it, the experience may be less pleasant due to vaginal dryness. Also, be careful not to slip or fall. It’s better to stick to simple positions when in the water.
Sexy Spanking
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If you and your partner find spanking arousing and hot, go for it! There are many ways how to incorporate spanking into your sex life. For example, try spanking while having sex. When he’s on top in a way that you could reach his butt, spank him with your palm being open.
And if you enjoy spanking a lot, take it to the next level by using tools like whips, a paddle, slappers, canes, floggers, or a crop.
But of course, don’t forget that you might leave marks. So, control your enthusiasm and don’t hit too hard.
Butt Stuff
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For some people, anal is a kind of kinky sex, while for others it’s something routine. If you are one of the former, trying anal sex might spice things up a lot for you. Just keep in mind several things.
This experience shouldn’t be painful. To ensure it, use much water-based lube. Relax the muscles, breathe.
Begin small. To prepare your butt for sex, don’t go too much at once. Use special small sex toys, fingers, or tongue. Or buy butt plugs of different sizes to train the butt muscles.
What About Restraints?
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When we hear kinky sex, dominance and submission are among the first things that come to our mind. You can restrain him, using anything you like. For example, handcuff him – it’s an obvious option. Or tie his ankles and wrists to bedposts. Leave your partner feeling vulnerable. You can also ask him to put on a straightjacket. And it would be especially kinky to put on a chastity belt on him.
Hot And Cold
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Whether he is tied or not, ask him to close his eyes. You can use a blindfold, too.
Then play with his lips, nipples, balls, and penis, using a cub of ice. It will be weird but so pleasant.
Or give him a job with a mint candy in the mouth. It can be replaced with warm chocolate, ice water, chilled champagne.
Kinky Atmosphere
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If you are not ready for some super daring experiments, you can always spice things up with the atmosphere. And kinky sex music might come in handy. Yes, you read it right, there are many kinky sex songs that can put you two into a hot frame of mind.
Sex In Public Places
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Having sex in a public place is among the top kinky sex ideas to try. And this idea is so popular because the fear of being caught only intensifies the desire and passion. But keep in mind several aspects.
Choose the right timing and place. We would strongly recommend that you don’t do it in Central Park when it’s the weekend. There will be many kids in the park, and we are sure you don’t want any to see you two. Instead, choose a place where there is practically no chance of spoiling someone’s childhood.
Don’t wear clothing in bright colors. When you try to hide in the leaves, something red will definitely scream for people’s attention.
Don’t put on underwear on that day. Your undies will only get in the way of having fun.
Sex In The Shower
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Kinky sex marriage – these are the words that can be rarely seen together. Yet, we would tell you that when you get married, it is time to start sexperimenting, not stop. For example, try having sex in the shower.
And if you wonder which positions will be the best, you can only learn it by trying. It’s because it all depends on the space available and your flexibility. Many people find a doggie style comfortable for shower sex. And the position when you both stand with the guy behind might also work if you bent a bit, placing your palms on the wall. Or the guy can sit on a towel and you can sit on him.
Just please be careful! A shower is a slippery place. Keep slippery objects away from you. And don’t rest the body on something that can’t take the weight.
Tips On Being Great In Bed
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Here are some tips that will always help you be an awesome sex partner.
- Show how much you desire him. Men adore feeling desired! So, even if your technique is not perfect, he will not even notice anything but your passion.
- Look at him. Men really love when a woman looks at him while they are making love. Alternatively, a woman who doesn’t seem not really into a man.
- Participate in your play. Don’t just lie there without any movement because it would be a big turn off. Be enthusiastic at bringing your man to the levels of orgasm he never knew!
- Be vocal. He would really appreciate if you are vocal. Tell him what you want, whisper, scream, groan, and moan. It’s a huge turn on! Plus, he doesn’t read your mind. Let him know how you feel.
- Be confident. If you know your own body, things that could bring you pleasure, he will think it is super hot. Allow him to stare at your naked body, never switch off the light when having sex, and he will tell you that you are his best sex partner.
- We don’t talk about anything extreme. Even something simple can give you many points.
- Direct him. Work with your partner till he learns exactly what you like, how to touch you, or how to move inside you.
- Don’t stop searching for something interesting, and he will thank you. And you don’t have to plan everything in advance.
- Focus on him. He will consider you to be great in bed if you explore what he desires and give these things to him.
- Don’t be scared of kinky sex jokes. Sometimes things go wrong or dirty or embarrassing. When that happens, don’t be too shy to laugh about it.
Becoming Kinky In Bed
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At some point in your relationship, spicing up your sex life becomes vital, whether you are ready or not. And really, it’s not that difficult.
Read about sex. There is so much info available online. Look through our blog, check out popular magazines. You will find many sex-related topics.
Watch porn. Watch it alone or together with your partner. It may be weird at first, but you will get used to it soon.
Communicate with your partner. Discuss your desires and you will be one step closer to trying something new.
Sexting And Dirty Talk
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If you wish to get things hotter in bed, talk dirty! Find kinky sex texts to send him and turn him on at an important meeting with his colleagues. Be a naughty girl and earn some spanking points before he gets home from work. Let him plan the pleasant revenge all day long!
Try Role Play
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Role play is something that you should definitely try! You can choose something simple. And the great news is that it requires little effort and not so much courage, comparing to other kinky sex ideas. The most popular ideas for role playing are a secretary who seduces a boss, a hitchhiker, a professor and a student, home delivery, and a nurse.
Kinky Sex Positions
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Some sex positions are especially kinky. For example, when you do it right in front of the window with no curtains. Or when the guy is lying on the back, and the woman kneeling right over his mouth. It might also be a part of a 69 position. But on its own this position is quite dominant. Here the woman will have all control.
Never Stop Searching
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We often think that the man’s only erogenous zone is his penis. But in reality, you can discover so much more! Just keep searching! For example, check how sensitive his balls are. His anus and perineum might also wait for your attention.
In Front Of The Mirror
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Watching how you’re doing it is the real turn on! So, why not try having sex in front of the mirror?
Another kinky sex idea is to invite a guest. Even though a threesome is not something that every couple can handle, some more sexperienced people might find this adventure super enjoyable.
So, does trying something new in bed seem not that scary any longer? We hope that our post will help you become braver. More useful info can be found on our blog.
FAQ: Kinky Sex
Is it okay to be kinky?
Having a kink is similar to drinking alcohol. Over time, it will take longer to get the same feeling. For some, it is all common and starts “normally”. But over time, the same routine or quantity is not enough. Stepping into the kink allows you to step into new ways to find joy.
How common is being kinky?
Studies vary, but an estimated 10% of the population regularly takes part in kinking activities, and a much larger percentage are interested in it. Comparing the two, kink-minded people are not as rare as they look.
What does a kinky relationship mean?
Kink is often described as a bend from a straight line. If you were thinking about sexuality, the kink lifestyle would be a twist from the standard “vanilla” relationship. People usually accept kisses, massages, or intense caresses, oral sex, and permeability as vanilla in their sexual life.
