You have probably heard something silly come out of a man’s mouth when they have had enough of you and want a break up – “I’m not ready,” “We’re better being friends…” These are all pathetic excuses they give when they are tired of a relationship. Sometimes you can even predict what is going to come out of their mouths! Here are some of the most common excuses heard from men, which will definitely sound familiar. These might help you to figure out how to get over a break up.
1. “I’m not ready for a relationship right now, but I still really care about you”
You certainly need to consider how to break up when you hear such words. Either way, he is still telling you that he does not want you. Probably in the future, but you are not at the top of his list right now. Moreover, if he really cared about you, the last thing he would have done was to hurt your feelings. This is usually puzzling because he wants to get away from you, yet at the same time he cares about you and your feelings matter to him. What does he mean?
2. “We can still be friends.”
When you are falling in love, you don't want your partner to be just a friend. So, when he offers friendship, it is not what he actually means, most of the time; he actually means that he does not ever want to see you again. He just wants to put it in a nice way. He thinks that he is offering a compensation for the damage he has caused to you by breaking up with you. He will not possibly ask you out as a friend and have little chats all the time!
3. “I’m migrating with my family.”
A smart excuse men use to get away from you, to another land far away. He wants to make it sound nice by suggesting that it is his family’s idea, but more often than not it is usually his idea and he really wants to do his best to avoid you. Sometimes he doesn’t want to tell you what is wrong with you – how to get over a break up if you don’t know what is wrong with yourself?
4. “Whoever marries you is so lucky!”
Deep down he is actually thinking, ‘I’m even luckier not to marry you!’ When you hear this from a man, you cannot comprehend how confused he makes you – he doesn’t want to be the lucky one by marrying you? It is hurting right. Men do not believe in the idea of settling down and planning for future as much as you do. They just hate being responsible and mature.
5. “I’m glad to know you, but I think we should spend more time with other people.”
Beware! More often than not, he has already cheated on you, or is going to cheat on you so he is giving a warning in advance. Men like these cannot be trusted! He is also trying to say that he has gotten tired of you and would really prefer trying out someone fresh and new. Again, you might think how to get over a breakup if men keep cheating on you and refuse to admit it?
6. “I’m scared of committing.”
This makes you think where all the bravery of man goes away at this time. He thinks that spending a couple of hours with you each week on a date is a chore and he had really much rather be at the pub spending time with his friends over a few drinks or partying at some club with them. They are probably whom he learnt how to break up from anyway.
7. “I need some space.”
When he says this, he probably thinks you are crazy. You may have just occasionally glanced at his phone when a text came in, or picked up his phone for him while he was in the shower – but he thinks you are invading his personal space and he wants out. It is your right to know about your partner’s life, but sometime men do keep secrets and they do not want you to find those out.
8. “I still want to be with you, but I really need a break.”
What does he need a break from, you? If you are thinking that he might get back with you after his ‘break’, you are wrong! This is just another one of his pathetic excuses to put you on hold – and never be back together with you. This sounds weird coming from him, considering that he is about to break your heart but he still looks up to you. Sometimes when you hear this from him, it might even mean that he is actually scared of you!
9. “I’ve got a lot of issues right now.”
If he really cared about you, he would share his problems with you and conquer them side by side with you. This also sounds like, ‘I’ve got a lot of problems in my life right now, but you’re the biggest problem of them all.’ He also means that he does not like being with you. He wants some time to pass so that he can grow up and be more mature to handle you.
10. “I’m still not over my ex.”
If he already knew long ago that, he was not over his ex, why did he continue to date you. It might be possible that he thinks his ex is better than you. This is just another one of his pathetic excuses to get away from you, and he expects you to pity him with this as well! Come on, how to get over a break up if you get this all the time?
Men always use the same old excuses to break up with women, and they get tired of hearing the same thing repeatedly. Sometimes women can even predict what they are going to hear from the men!
FAQ: How To Get Over A Breakup
How long does it take to get over a breakup when you still love him?
It takes about 10 weeks to feel better after a relationship ends, as showed the survey published in The Journal of Positive Psychology. However, according to a second study, it takes an average of 18 months to recover from the termination of a marriage. So, heartbreak is a grieving process that manifests itself differently for each individual.
What are the 5 stages of a breakup?
Even if you were the one who started the breakup, you would go through five stages of mourning:
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Decline
- Acceptance
Who hurts more after a breakup?
Studies done by the Miami Behavioral Health Center showed that women are more badly impacted by breakups than men, expressing higher degrees of physical and mental distress. In terms of emotional distress, women scored 6.83 on a scale of 1-10, while males scored 6.59. In terms of bodily pain, women had an average of 4.22 compared to 3.75 for men.
