1. Set Realistic Expectations
Romance novels, television, and movies have given us unrealistic expectations of romance and relationships. Sadly, not every relationship is a Nicholas Sparks movie. Sure, it might start out all candlelight dinners and moonlit walks on the beach, but after a while, real life sets in. That doesn’t devalue the relationship, but all of that sappy romance would get boring eventually.
The best relationship advice is to keep your feet on the ground and your head (and heart) out of the clouds. You’re not perfect and neither is your partner. They have issues and insecurities just as you do. But if you truly love each other, you can work through them and learn to accept their imperfections, just as they accept yours. By setting the bar too high in the romance department you are only setting yourself up for disappointment. A real relationship is based on reality as well as on mutual love, trust, and respect.
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2. Give Your Partner Space
Of course, when you’re in love, you want to spend every waking moment together. However, this is not healthy. It is important for both you and your partner that you maintain separate identities. Go out with your friends, take separate vacations, set aside some “me” time every day. You need to maintain a sense of self in your relationship in order to have a happy and healthy relationship.
3. Don’t Base Your Happiness Solely on Your Relationship
Yes, your relationship should make you feel happy and fulfilled. However, it is not the only aspect of your life. As stated above, you need to set aside time for yourself. Have some separate hobbies from your significant other. Maintain separate friendships and focus on your career. Your relationship should not be the sole source of contentment in your life.